Teacher Appreciation Week, May 4-8th, 2015, is a great time to let your children's teachers know how much you value the hard work, creativity, dedication, and PATIENCE they put in to educating students.
While it is true that it's the thought that really counts, it's often hard to come up with affordable and simple gifts that teachers will truly love and enjoy.
“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.” – Henry Adams
So here are 10 easy teacher gifts that are sure to please!
What useful, unique, or creative Teacher Appreciation idea did you come up with or receive this week?
Any seasoned, working mom will tell you that finding reliable and quality childcare is key for creating a healthy work-life balance. But where do you find a great nanny that you can trust? And how do you navigate this unique and intimate employment relationship?
In Rachel Levy Lesser’s new book, Who's Going To Watch My Kids, she recounts insightful stories of her journey to hire and keep a great nanny for her two children. This book is an easy read filled with humorous accounts of Rachel and her friend’s experiences, tips for avoiding the mistakes they made, and advice for building a healthy employment relationship with your nanny.
This entertaining book is must read for expectant and new moms who are searching for their perfect Mary Poppins as well as working moms trying to understand their current nanny relationship. Check out this excerpt from Who’s Going To Watch My Kids and be sure to order this great book and read Rachel’s other publications at www.rachellevylesser.com
The Online Ad
Our search for nanny number two was different from the first one, kind of like how baby number two is always different from baby number one. Not necessarily better or worse, just different. One of my new mom friends suggested that I place an ad on a local caregiving website. (I was so pleased to be making real connections with other moms in our new hometown. It was kind of like how I felt after I made real friends in college—not just the ones who lived on my freshman hall.) Searching for someone online to look after our then toddler Joey and new baby girl on the way sounded a bit scary back in 2005. But my trusty new mom friends assured me that they had found great nannies online. It was certainly worth a shot.
The response to my online ad was overwhelming. The site generated an email to you every time someone answered your ad. I received so many that I had trouble focusing on work those first few days that the ad was posted. I felt kind of popular. I had met Neil before the days of online dating, but I imagined that this was in some way what it felt like to get lots of responses to your online dating profile. I figured we looked attractive to potential nannies. Perhaps we would have our pick of lots of qualified candidates?
The problem with an online ad, I soon learned, was that it was seen by so many people that so many responded whether they met the requirements or not—even more so than my initial ad in the paper that brought us nanny Amy. It was also springtime, and I was hearing from lots of college students who planned on being home for the summer, but were then headed right back to school come September. I assumed they could read the part of the ad that said “long-term permanent position.” Apparently many candidates chose to ignore the fine print, albeit not so fine at all.
I had a great interview with one young woman named Catherine who came to me through the website. But by the time I responded to her inquiry, she had already taken another job—for my good friend Suzanne. Suzanne and I met when our first children were babies at a brunch hosted by a mutual friend. We hit it off right away, bonding over our pre-baby lives in New York City and our struggles to find good childcare so that we could hang on to our careers. Suzanne is a social worker who helps cancer patients through the physical and emotional roller coaster of their treatments. She also counsels grieving family members who have lost loved ones to the dis- ease. Suzanne quickly became my unofficial therapist as we met just a few months after my mother died. I don’t know what I would have done without her.
Almost instantly, I felt like I could tell Suzanne anything, and she later told me that the feeling was mutual. Our conversations flowed without effort as we discussed cancer and dying, friendship and family, and then easily switched gears to assembly instructions for baby bouncy seats and where to find the best salad dressings. Incidentally Suzanne makes the best salads and they always compliment my homemade desserts. We still talk about opening a restaurant one day where we would only serve salads and desserts.
Suzanne and I figured out pretty quickly one day that she had snatched nanny Catherine away from me off of the caregiving website as we compared notes. Catherine still babysits for Suzanne’s children on Saturday nights, now nine years later. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had managed to get to Catherine and hire her as nanny number two. Would it have worked out? Would she still be our nanny today?
We ended up finding nanny number two, Ellie, from the same caregiving website. Ellie was an energetic and fun-loving young woman who already worked for another family two days a week and was able to work for us on the other three days. Ellie proposed the nanny share idea to us during the interview, and we thought it sounded great. Part-time work was ideal for my schedule, but it often made the nanny search more difficult as most candidates wanted full-time work. A nanny share made perfect sense to me.
Ellie had just earned her degree in elementary education, and she hoped to teach one day, but it was hard to get a teaching job, especially in the ultra-competitive school districts she was targeting. I figured one day she would make the leap from nanny to teacher, but I hoped that would not be for a long time. After all, that’s what she had told us during the interview. She seemed bubbly and sweet, and she was great with then-two-year-old Joey. Ellie got right down on the floor and played with him, and we kind of fell in love. Until we fell out of love just four months later when Ellie left us to take a teaching job that she promised us she wouldn’t take for at least another year.
My friend Nina found her fantastic first nanny of seven years from an ad she put on craigslist. I met Nina through our kids, who go to school together. Nina is a partner at a mid-sized law firm in downtown Philadelphia, and she is one of the best multitaskers I have ever met. She can make her three kids breakfast, do two loads of laundry, answer work emails, and prepare dinner for her nanny to warm up that evening, and all before 7:00 a.m. Her multitasking skills translate into her being a great friend, as she is always there to help me out, give my kids a ride, and bounce an idea off of. She also has great naturally curly hair, and I am probably most envious of that. After all, I was the kid who ate the crusts off of all my sandwiches because my mother told me it would give me curly hair. My hair is still pin straight, even on a really humid day.
Nina was looking for someone to watch her twin babies when they were just three months old. She had initially thought that she would put the twins in daycare, but chose to go the nanny route after negotiating a part- time work schedule with her firm. Nina felt a bit behind when she placed her nanny ad on craigslist just two weeks before going back to work. Luckily, she had a lot of responses to the ad, and she managed to screen over the phone until she narrowed down her pool to five candidates. Then two candidates canceled and two more didn’t show up for their scheduled interviews. And then there was one—Liza.
As was the case with our first nanny, Amy, Liza seemed to be Nina’s best hope, and most likely her only hope. Liza walked into Nina’s house with a copy of the New York Times nicely tucked into an NPR tote bag, and Nina knew she was the one. She had to be. Looking back on that day, Nina now recognizes that she may have put a little too much faith into her intellectually snobby instinct, but it was something. If Liza read the paper of record (“All the News That’s Fit to Print”), and listened to NPR enough to warrant carrying the actual tote bag around, then she had to be a good person to take care of her babies.
She was. Liza’s interview went really well, as Nina and her husband Mark learned how Liza had retired from a teaching career in the Philadelphia public school sys- tem. She had raised three children of her own, one of whom went to college at Mark’s Ivy League alma mater. If she had raised her kids to be happy and successful young adults, perhaps she would help to do the same for Nina and Mark’s kids? Liza ended up being a very positive influence on their children. So much so that when the family moved out to the suburbs six years after hiring Liza, she continued to work for them for another full year. Eventually though, Liza needed more hours and the family needed fewer.
Nina’s experience with nanny Liza was certainly better than my friend Lori’s online recruitment from Care. com for her first nanny, Bonnie. Lori, then a New York– based accountant, was putting in the extra hours at her firm, even with a new baby at home. Lori felt that she couldn’t get behind on her billable hours, especially as a new mother who was trying so hard to prove herself at the male-dominated firm where she worked. I admired her for doing this—for “leaning in” or “getting a seat at the table” (as much as those terms have become overused and have even started to annoy me). Lori was the real deal: a very impressive, young working mom. I wondered if I could have maintained the big corporate magazine job as a new mom. I was grateful for my part-time set-up at the smaller marketing firm.
Lori hired her nanny Bonnie contingent upon a few days of on-the-job training. During these few days, Lori worked from home to see how Bonnie did. It was a good thing Lori put that measure in place. Lori took a break from work in her home office and walked into her living room to check on baby Abby and nanny Bonnie. She found Bonnie sound asleep on the floor with her back against the couch, while Abby sat nearby and played with her plastic cup toys. Thankfully baby Abby was not yet mobile. Lori went back to Care.com and hired her second choice, who quickly rose to the ranks of first choice.
When you look for a nanny online, be prepared to act quickly. Otherwise you could lose out on a strong candidate like I did with Catherine. You should also be prepared to get those candidates who don’t read that ever-important fine print. You know, the “fine print” that says you need part-time or full-time help, or some- one that drives, or whatever essential thing it is that you need. When candidates go online, a lot of the time they are just browsing, and may respond to something on a whim without fully understanding the commitment. This was the case for our second nanny Ellie, who only worked for us for one summer. She probably always knew that it would be a summer fling.
This was an excerpt from Rachel Levy Lesser’s new book Who’s Going to Watch My Kids?
Join Choice Parenting for an informational class on 'Understanding Your Childcare Options' at Caribou Baby this Sunday, April 26th 3-4pm (easy commute from Manhattan). This class is great for expectant and new parents who are beginning their search for quality childcare for their family.
We will discuss the benefits, challenges, and feasibility of daycares, nannies, nanny-sharing, and Au pairs. We will give you information, insight, and advice to help you find the best suited caregiver for your unique family's needs, personality, lifestyle, budget and child raising beliefs.
After the class, each attendee will receive an emailed copy of the Choice Parenting "Finding A Quality Daycare" and "Nanny Hiring Guide' with our recommended search and hiring process, tour/interview questions, tips and considerations to help you start your childcare search.
Hope to see you there!
An open letter from a NYC nanny in response to the New York Post article on April 8th entitled ‘Escalades, Hampton homes, and much more: The rise of the diva nanny’. Maxene S. is a professional nanny of 12 years, an active leader in the nanny community, and is passionate about the career she has chosen! She has a degree in Culinary Arts and a Montessori Teaching Diploma (NAMC), with a specialized certification to teach 3 months-3 years. Check out her thoughts on the ‘diva nanny’ article and the issues surrounding the ‘nanny market’ in Manhattan.
They say that being a parent is the hardest and most important job you will ever have. If so, shouldn't the person you hire to help you raise, educate, and LOVE your children also be held in high regard?
Unfortunately this does not seem to be a commonly held view in busy New York City. Instead it seems that there are non-stop assaults on the nanny profession, taking what should be a very creditable career, and tarnishing it with stories of "bad eggs” in over sensationalized articles. The New York Post recently published one such article entitled, ‘The Rise of the Diva Nanny’, where the journalist paints the picture of the "hired help" acting entitled and spoiled.
I shared this story on my Facebook group page, NYC Professional Nannies, where New York City's career nannies gather as a community to learn about child development, NY industry standards, and the laws that have been put in place to protect our vulnerable profession. Our group strives to stop the erroneous assumptions and stereotypes about our valuable role as a nanny.
Reading the article's claims from these featured parents and lawyers about "diva nannies" all point to one sure thing: No professional career nanny would or should ever act this way. Our good nanny title is being misused and blemished by under qualified, unprofessional babysitters and those who choose to employ them. Calling a babysitter a nanny is like calling a first year medical student a doctor. These two titles are very different and should not be used interchangeably.
Being a professional nanny is one of the most challenging, tiring, and emotionally draining careers you can have. Coming into someone's home to help them raise their most precious children is one of the most respectable and intimate vocation choices. We do not just play for a living… we do and are so much more! Many times, we are asked to fulfill a proxy-parent role and do everything needed in order for the child’s life to be healthy, smooth, and happy. In NYC, parents tend to have much higher standards and grander expectations in every aspect of their lives and that of their children. 24hr, weekend, and overnight nannies are a common place and career nannies typically work 50-70hrs+ a week.
The cost of living in the New York Metro area is exorbitant! $15 an hour is close to the average payment in the city and most families pay illegally, don't offer benefits, or the required overtime wages. Sadly, it appears that parents value the cleanliness of their toilet far more than the quality of their children's caregiver as even housekeeper on the UES earn in the range of $25-30 per an hour. Those employers that say they can't afford to pay a good hourly rate to legally employ a qualified and professional nanny should not feel entitled to have one and should consider childcare alternatives such as daycares, au pairs or babysitters.
A great number of professional nannies have college degrees or certifications (many in the education field) while others started out as babysitters and built a long resume of childcare experience, skills, and references that deserve to be compensated fairly. Why shouldn’t qualified nannies receive a six-figured salary, benefits, job perks for the important job they do? We nurse your child when sick, help with math homework, teach important life skills and stay late when you have that big charity benefit to attend.
Now don’t get me wrong, of course we notice if your one year old wears a cashmere coat that costs more than our weekly pay and how generous you are when you tip the caterers after a "little" dinner party. We feel hurt and unappreciated when we don't get a bonus, a raise, and a “thank you” for going above and beyond on a daily basis. And we do pay attention to those high salary and glamorous perks offered for other nanny positions just as any other career driven person would do. But at the end of the day, we will stay late, endure the hours, and job demands because we love and respect your children, family and our career. We won't make "diva like" stipulations because we are professional nannies, and we have a respectable reputation to uphold.
To be a great nanny, you need to give a piece of your heart and soul to the children and the families you work for. There are many joys that come with the job but also so much frustration and tears. Daily you have to navigate a very fine and intimate line between being a friend/parent figure and keeping a professional employment relationship.
Bottom line: Raising your children is a HUGE responsibility and we deserve to be respected and compensated accordingly. We love what we do for a living and find it an honor, privilege, and joy to do so. But please, please don’t confuse our amazing profession with the ‘divas’ or under qualified babysitters.
Are you a nanny in NYC? We would love to hear your thoughts on this topic!
Are you an expectant or new parent in search of a professional nanny? Let Choice Parenting help you navigate the nanny hiring process and teach you how to find a quality nanny that matches your family's needs. Call or email to schedule a free consultation and learn more about our childcare coaching sessions.
One of the biggest highlights of having a nanny is that your child will be exposed to far less illnesses than those that attend daycare. And when your baby is sick with symptoms that can often times last for days, you will not be forced to miss work or pay for backup childcare.
But what happens when your nanny becomes sick?
Parents should be aware that anyone who works in close contact with young children is bound to get sick from time to time. As part of her job, your nanny will be changing diapers, kissing germy cheeks, spit up on, sneezed on and have little fingers touching her face all day long. No one enjoys being sick but this miserable experience is compounded when combined with the financial worry of missed pay and placing your nanny family in a bind.
Most parents do not mind covering a few days within reason but nothing will turn a the employment relationship sour like a nanny who calls out sick last minute or repeatedly leaves their family expensing unexpected vacation time or additional funds for backup childcare. On the other hand, a nanny expecting payment for the days she was ill, may feel disrespected if she believes paid sick time is the standard in a professional employment or feels she missed work after properly caring for your ill child.
In many cases, a contagious employee may chose to come to work to skip the stress of calling out, which is unfair to all parties, as your family will be exposed to illness, your child will be left alone with a caregiver unable to give 100%, and your employee is not given the time needed to care for herself.
While paid sick days is not required by the Federal Fair Labor Standards Act, there are some states that do require payment or unpaid time off without penalty so be sure to check with your state’s regulations. For example, New York requires 3 paid sick days after a year of employment for domestic employees that work more than 80 hours per calendar year according to the Domestic Workers’ Bill of Rights. For those that have not worked a full calendar year for the same employer, these workers are entitled to 40 hours of unpaid sick leave. Employers in NY must give their workers written notice of their sick time policy and the law at time of hire. Guidelines for this can be found on the nyc.gov website.
The key to any healthy relationship is clear communication and expectations! Whether or not you are required to pay your nanny for sick time or a last minute call out, be sure to have a discussion during the interview process and write the details of your agreement into your “Nanny Contract”.
Here are some questions to consider and discuss during the interview or “Nanny Contract” negotiation:
What is the “Sick Day” policy with your nanny or nanny family?
Do you need more guidance on how to create your employment expectations and a detailed “Nanny Contract”? Choice Parenting would love to help! Check out our Childcare Coaching Sessions or our Hourly Custom Service and let us assist you to make your nanny relationship a success.
Are you an expectant or new parent in Brooklyn soon to be or currently searching for a quality nanny for your little ones?
Come join Holly Flanders of Choice Parenting March 22, 2015 from 10-12pm at Gumbo Brooklyn Baby Boutique for an informative workshop to help you navigate the world of nannies and how to find and keep the caregiver that is right for your family!
During this workshop, we will teach best practices to help you find, hire, and maintain a great nanny that matches your unique family. We will discuss topics such as: the importance of family assessment, researching the nanny market, how and when to start your search, the interview process, background checks, payroll, taxes and benefits, the purpose and details of a "nanny contract", training, communication, reviews and so much more!
Preregistration is required: ( $40 person/ $60 couple)
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Assurance that your child is safe and secure is imperative for all parents yet especially so for working parents who entrust a nanny alone with their child throughout the day. Even after carefully interviewing and diligently checking a nanny’s background and references, true trust in your caregiver will only develop after time spent building a relationship and a consistent track record of good and responsible behavior.
While a nanny camera is a great way to keep a watchful eye on your child from inside, many parents question how they can protect their children outside of the home. Is your nanny going where she says? Is she doing what she promised? Is your child’s best interest kept in mind?
Verizon recently released the GizmoPal by LG, a wristwatch styled location tracking and communication device, for kids.
With the GizmoPal, parents have the ability to set their preferences for communication through an app on their smart phones. They can register two phone number that the child or nanny can call anytime by pushing a single button and the child can receive incoming calls up to four phone numbers of the parent’s choosing. It can be programmed with the option of a silent or a high volume ring tone as well as an automatic pick up function in the case that no one responds.
It also comes with a GPS tracking system that can be accessed through the app so that you can pinpoint your child’s location on a map at anytime. You can also create scheduled notifications to remind yourself to check in at times such as: when the nanny will take the child out for a walk, a class, or a playdate. Although this gadget was made for kids 4 years old and up, I believe it can be repurposed for a stroller or diaper bag as a great tool for parents to track their nannies and young children’s movements. It can also be used to plan a few surprise visits at their location just to make sure that everything is going as you prefer.
The GizmoPal is water resistant, durable and comes in both blue and pink. The cost is $79.99 and is only $5 a month when added to your Verizon MORE everything phone plan (no contacts or activation fees). Check out more information on the Verizon LG GizmoPal HERE.
Unfortunately there is still not a foolproof system to safeguard your children at all time and places but knowing where they are and how much time they spend in a location is a great place to start! What do you think of a location tracking system for your child? A necessity? A luxury? Or over the top and controlling?
A Valentine's day present gifted to your nanny is most likely not anticipated or expected but rather just a nice gesture to let your caregiver know that she is dear to your family. Surprising her with a thoughtful gift is a great way to keep the employment relationship strong and to show your nanny that she is appreciated and cared for.
While many people love the idea of gift giving, it can be tricky to find just the right thing at a cost that won't break the bank. Of course flowers, chocolate, a handmade card from your kids or a gift card to her favorite restaurant will be a welcomed surprise but if you are looking for something just a little bit different here are a few ideas to get your creative juices flowing!
Does your Nanny....
...head to the gym after work?
Consider gifting a pass or package to check out a new gym class such as: Cycling, Zumba, Yoga, Pilates, or Barre.
... always look for ways to better herself as a nanny?
Subscribe her to the Nanny Magazine which has a tons of creative craft, book, educational, and meal ideas along with articles specifically geared to support professional nannies.
... do a lot of baby wearing or sit on the floor to play with young kids all day?
A 60 minute back or a foot massage at a nearby spa may be just the ticket for your nanny!
...like arts and crafts?
Pick up a gift card to a local art store or make a gift bag of inspiring art supplies.
...enjoy getting fixed up and pretty?
Treat her to a gift bag of new nail polish, eyeshadow, or lipstick colors for spring.
...pride herself in her job?
Gift her a "Love, Teach, Inspire" necklace that signifies her important role in your children's lives.
Whatever you decide to do just be sure to say.... "We love having you as our nanny! Happy Valentine's Day!"
Hi! I am Holly...
For over a decade, my career focus has been centered in and around NYC in the childcare, education, and family support industries.